An adoptee-centered approach to adoption is important to a healthy relationship

An adoptee-centered approach to adoption is important to a healthy relationship

Rafiq Wagiet

| Sara-Jayne King spoke to Parent 24 journalist Samantha Herbst about adoption.


A Cape Town family spoke about the importance of adoption and the safety of abandoned children.  Image: Lauren Isaacs/Eyewitness News

In recent years, a growing community of adult adoptees have taken to social media to share their lived adoption experiences.

One of the reasons they have spoken out is because conversations about adoption in general tend to exclude the people most affected — the adoptees. This then continues the narrative that the adoption process is a win-win and “rainbows and unicorns” for all involved.

Parents adopt children for a variety of reasons – including trying to keep the children away from environments of social ills such as substance abuse, violence and even poverty.

Because of this, adoptees are often told to show more gratitude to their caregivers and guardians for adopting them.

Samantha Herbst, a journalist at Parent24, has dealt extensively with this topic and has written a number of articles about it.

She says that not having adoptees as a prominent voice in the adoption conversation can be problematic.

Not many people tell birth children to be thankful. Why are you telling your adoptive child this? Because a child is a child is a child.

Samantha Herbst, journalist at Parent24

If we lived in a perfect world, there would be no adoption.

Samantha Herbst, journalist at Parent24

This child that comes into your home is not the result of your big heart. It’s the result of really terrible things that happened in our country and an existing trauma.

Samantha Herbst, journalist at Parent24

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This article first appeared on CapeTalk : An adoptee-centric approach to adoption is important for a healthy relationship

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