Whether you’ve gone through an uncontested divorce or have never been married to the common parent you share a child with, chances are you’ll have at least a few moments of difficulty and stress when attempting to have a child together raise child. Sometimes when you live in separate households and lead different lives, it’s really difficult to get on the same page when it comes to your parenting. Fortunately, there are many great books that you can read together and try to work on your mutual parenting relationship.
9 Talking to Children about Divorce: A Parent’s Guide to Healthy Communication at Every Stage of Divorce by Jean McBride, MS, LMFT
This book by marriage and family therapist Jean McBride is great for parents just beginning the separation process. It gives parents the tools they need to explain each stage of the divorce process to children of all ages. It also includes help with communication between parents and other insights that can really help parents be on the same page when raising children from separate households together.
Buy from Amazon: $11.69
8th Nolo’s Essential Guide to Child Custody and Support by Emily Doskow, Attorney
Figuring out things like child support and custody arrangements is difficult at best. However, this text, written by a seasoned attorney, provides information about each state’s child support laws, insights into how judges determine custody, and more. It has also been updated to include information on how the COVID-19 pandemic has impacted parenting and child custody.
Buy from Amazon: $20.49
7 Successful Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex: A Keeping Journal to Support and Encourage You and Your Children
This isn’t just your average co-parenting book that each parent claims they read to make the other happy. It is actually a kept diary containing prompts for parents to make peace with each other and become parents together, so that your child’s happiness is paramount. It’s a great book for co-parents who want to make amends and really try to commit to their co-parenting relationship. It also works well for parents with a troubled ex who just want to find peace and move on.
Buy from Amazon: $14.29
6 Mindful Co-Parenting: A Child-Friendly Path Through Divorce by Jeremy S. Gaies, Psy.D., and James B. Morris, Jr., Ph.D.
If you’re looking for a step-by-step guide to help you and your co-parent focus on what matters most, then this is the book for you. It includes everything you need to start co-parenting and tips on reducing tension so you can become parents together for the sake of your children.
Buy from Amazon: $14.95
5 Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Creating Two Homes for Your Child by Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.
Therapist Isolina Ricci provides guidelines and checklists galore for co-parenting in this incredible book. She also explains many of the common issues with co-parenting and how they relate to each parent’s personality type. This book will really help you and your co-parent get on the same page and help you both understand each other a little better.
Buy from Amazon: $12.89
4 Shared Custody With an Idiot: Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex by Julie A. Ross, MA, and Judy Corcoran
While this isn’t solely focused on working together, it’s a great text for anyone stuck in co-parenting with a conflicted ex. It offers insight and recommendations to make dealing with that person a little more bearable so you can do what is in your child’s best interest.
Buy from Amazon: $17.99
3 Co-Parenting 101: Helping Your Children Thrive in Two Houses After Divorce by Deesha Philyaw and Michael D. Thomas
This all-encompassing guide to co-parenting was actually written by a divorced co-parent couple. They decided to use their experiences and insights to offer this outstanding text that contains everything you can think of when it comes to co-parenting (and more). It will really be eye opening and offer advice to help you both be more effective co-parents so your children can truly thrive. This book comes highly recommended by several experts, including the Parents Magazine team.
Buy from Amazon: $16.74
2 Divorce Poison: How to Protect Your Family from Bad Talk and Brainwashing by Dr. Richard A Warshak
If you feel that the relationship between you and your co-parent is poisoning your relationship with your children, then this is the book for you. It offers information on restoring parent-child relationships, what to do to resolve co-parenting disputes, and how to remove the poison from your family in general.
Buy from Amazon: $9.99
1 Co-parenting works! Help Your Kids Thrive After Divorce by Tammy Daughtry
In this book, co-parenting and counselor Tammy Daughtry gives parents real strategies that actually work for co-parenting success. With this book, parents can learn to work together so that their child grows up and enjoys a healthy life. This book focuses on positive co-parenting instead of the negativity and arguments that so many parents get caught up in.
Buy at Harper Collins: $10.49
Co-parenting isn’t always easy. However, these books can really help you and your co-parent get on the same page and work together for the good of your kids. In fact, you may even find that your co-parenting relationship is better than your relationship when you two were together.
Sources: Amazon, Harper Collins, Parents Magazine